Should Christians Practice Pronoun Hospitality?

The author of the above article suggests that most of his unsaved friends use pronoun introductions. I had heard about it, but had not personally experienced it. Yesterday was the first time I had someone introduce themselves with pronouns. I was very confused because I thought she said she used he/her pronouns, but my wife later clarified that she had said she used she/her. I wanted to be polite to her, but was very confused and thankfully I was able to talk to her without using either. Perhaps I need to get a hearing aid so I do not end up offending someone. (I am not trying to be rude about the hearing aid thing, but as a child I was diagnosed with some hearing loss, so the distinction between he and she is often difficult for me).

The article did a good job presenting both sides. Whatever position we take, this is not an easy issue. I use the rubric that our job is not to get lost people to act like Christians. A closer at-hand problem, however, is that kids in our churches may opt for some of these strange pronouns. I am not in a large metro area, but even in a town of 50K, here up north the junior high kids say all kinds of things about how they identify — usually to their school mates, not their pastor. It is a fad, but something worse than a fad.

My niece likes “they/them”, and is dressing in a stereotypically masculine way—while looking longingly at the dance floor at my daughter’s wedding reception. Yes, I considered asking her to dance. I also have the question of whether to honor the request fairly often when I go out for coffee. It is one of those “you know, ma’am, you’re really not fooling anyone” kind of things most of the time. (I’ve mostly interacted with F-M trans who are generally “people of surplus weight”. Generally, their mannerisms are very feminine.)

Solution - just use his/her - they/them’s name

Especially works if it is Pat