Unequally Yoked: Does Your Church or Pastor Have A Written Policy About Marrying Believers to Unbelievers?

Almost every pastor I know has run into a painful issue: the daughter of some important figure in the church (perhaps a board member) sets up an appointment with her husband-to-be and asks if the pastor will officiate.  The young man, however, does not profess to be a committed believer in Jesus.

From there, paths diverge and all kinds of things can happen.  Some churches/pastors have a written policy that at least protects those individual from feeling targeted, if nothing else.

What about your church or yourself (If you are a pastor)?  Do you simply say, "The Bible says...." or do you also have a policy that interprets the text in black and white terms.

Discussion might include exemptions (for example, a woman gets saved, has been living with a man for years and has several children with him, she is willing to get married to make things right and so is he, but he is not a believer and not wanting to become one; do you suggest they marry in court, not get married, etc.).


Yes, my church has a written policy on this.
33% (4 votes)
Yes, my pastor does but the church does not
8% (1 vote)
Sort of; it is implied in one of our documents, but not clearly
17% (2 votes)
No, we do not but we are working on it
0% (0 votes)
No, and I am glad we do not
0% (0 votes)
8% (1 vote)
Other or unsure
33% (4 votes)
Total votes: 12
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Teri Ploski's picture

I voted unsure only because I'm not sure if it is written down, per se, but it is policy.  I know our pastor will NOT marry a believer and an unbeliever.  He has publicly stated this. He also will not marry a couple if one is divorced. However, he that one is a personal preference. He understands that there are differing views on remarriage.  Several of us on staff, in fact, are remarried after divorce.