Since 1996, I have used Prepare/Enrich personal inventory tests in an attempt to help with premarital counseling. I gave up using them this last year. The reason: they do not seem to make a long-term difference.
If I look at the divorce rate from my pre-testing years, it is no better or worse. Although targeting certain areas where a relationship is weak sounds logical, I wonder if it actually saves either time or energy, especially since it takes a session to take the test.
It makes us feel like we are somehow "in control" and "systematic," but if we are interested in outcomes, I am not convinced.
If a couple's results demonstrate a conflicted relationship, you cannot tell them not to get married. You are supposed to work on areas of conflict without discouraging marriage. If results show a good vibrant relationship, the couple may still end up getting divorced.
Although I see value in premarital counseling, I have personally decided to trash the inventory approach.
What are your experiences and opinions? Are they very different from mine? Please consider opining as well as vote.