American Parents ‘Are Afraid of Their Own Kids,’ Physician Says

"According to Dr. Sax, child phone usage is one area in which parents are particularly paralyzed. What they fail to realize, however, is that they’re in charge and need to take control"

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Bert Perry's picture

In my view, a big part of the problem is that much of the time, parents are prone to wait for "big sin issues" before they intervene.  In my family, the question of phone usage is simple; is the phone getting in the way of other things the child needs to be doing?  If so, the phone is impounded for a while.  We're not waiting to discover porn use or sexting or the like. 

Aspiring to be a stick in the mud.

Ron Bean's picture

When I hear parents habitually telling their children to do something and then ask the child "OK?" I wonder two things; do they realize that they're asking their child's permission and what happens if the child says "No!"? 

I was told that in the family the word "No" is the word used by whoever is in charge. (One child called it "the Daddy word".) I aslo see a philosophy that tells parents not to use the word no but to, instead, give the child better choices. 

"Some things are of that nature as to make one's fancy chuckle, while his heart doth ache." John Bunyan

TylerR's picture

Editor

If this is what most parents are actually like, then God help us all.

Tyler is a pastor in Olympia, WA and works in State government.

Ron Bean's picture

I am appalled at the number of Christian parents I see who cannot control their children with their voice. Simple commands like "stop running", "don't interrupt", and "come here" are routinely ignored. Couple that with parents who can only get their children to obey with bribery or threats, and it's no wonder my generation is pessimistic about the younger generation. 

In any relationship, whoever can use the word "no" with effect is the one in authority. 

"Some things are of that nature as to make one's fancy chuckle, while his heart doth ache." John Bunyan