Four Things I Learned from Dad

First posted at Sharper Iron on July 24, 2009. Larry Blumer, the “Dad” in this essay, went to be with the Lord August 17, 2011.

An old adage says that when you’re sixteen your dad doesn’t know anything, when you’re twenty-six he’s occasionally sensible, and when you’re thirty-six he’s one of the wisest people you know. I can testify that there is some truth in that observation. Though I still rarely seek my dad’s advice, it’s because—at age forty-three—I have come to realize how much of his advice I’ve already absorbed from growing up around him.

Our Savior bought us with His own blood in order to redeem us and remake us in His image. That transformation is central to His great gospel purpose. In my life, He used my dad to accomplish some important parts of that purpose.

Four values

I don’t think my dad sat down and planned, “I need to teach these four values to my kids.” He did it mostly by just being there and speaking his mind (sometimes with passion!) in the context of a life that made what he meant unmistakably clear.

1. Dependability

Bob Jones Sr. was fond of saying, “The greatest ability is dependability,” but that concept was familiar to me long before I read it in high school. I remember hearing as a kid, “If you say you’re going to do something, you do it. If you say you’re going to be somewhere, you be there,” and other variations on that theme (See Prov. 25:19). Dad wasn’t trying to preach, but his words drove a biblical principle deep into my young mind.

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What Does “Train Up” Mean in Proverbs 22:6?

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“Over the years, the verse has held as a precious promise to parents that if they do everything right, their kids will turn out right. It has also been used as a guilty club to beat up parents who are feeling defeated over the choices of a rebellious child. Both responses are a misinterpretation and a misapplication of the text.” - P&D

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New Research Confirms Having Married Parents Helps Kids Get Ahead

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“Some researchers4 have made the case that marriage doesn’t matter much, while others have argued that marriage does matter. This raises the question—who is right? How much difference does marriage make in determining children’s later-in life success?” - IFS

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John Piper: Are Parents to Blame for Prodigals?

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“…when our kids don’t do things we think they should do or do things we think they shouldn’t do, to look back and say, ‘Could I have done better?’ And the answer is almost always yes.” - Desiring God

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CHEW Draws Massive Crowd of Homeschoolers

The Christian Home Educators of Wisconsin conference has grown steadily over its three years of existence—nearly doubling since the first installment in 2022.

This Thursday and Friday, April 4 and 5, it drew roughly 3,300 attendees from homeschool-friendly families and ministries to the colossal Kalahari Resort in Baraboo, Wis.—near Wisconsin Dells. The days were jam-packed with activities of all kinds, for all ages.

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More Men Than Women Want Kids

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“According to a recent study by Pew Research, young men are now more likely than young women to say they want children. Specifically, 57% of young men compared to only 45%, a minority, of young women.” - Breakpoint

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Is ‘Gentle Parenting’ Biblical?

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“If gentle parenting were just a mood board for solving parenting difficulties in nonconfrontational ways, I’d have nothing to say against it. But when you dig more deeply…you find at least two that stand opposed to the Bible’s teaching about parenting.” - TGC

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