Control vs. Controlling: The Difference Parents Need to Understand

“A new parenting study affirms that children are more likely to suffer from anxiety and depression when they have controlling parents. Wendy S. Grolnick, who supervised the research, urges parents to understand the difference between being controlling and with being in control.” - Intellectual Takeout


The phenomenon they’re calling “controlling” seems to really be a parent who is out of control of him/herself. It’s not controlling parenting; it’s random, emotion-driven parenting.

I’m reminded of the old adage that if you want lead, first lead yourself. In parenting, it means before you parent, become a grown-up.

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