Evangelicals are having their own #MeToo moment

OK, this is getting off track, but there’s some interesting things to be looked into here. With regards to Piper’s comments, I’m going to walk something back a bit. Specifically, when Piper says a “night” of physical abuse, that would seem to be at least compatible with blaming a woman for walking out after a couple of punches were landed. Not what I intended.

Regarding the best way to handle cases of domestic abuse, the simplest—though by no means simple—is clear physical abuse, including domestic rape. In such a case, you do what you can to keep someone safe and encourage them to involve others. The trouble is that psychologically, a lot of victims value the relationship A LOT, and going to the police, filing divorce papers, or even moving out is not something they’re ready to do. A lot of persuasion even in the “easiest” cases, and a lot of times, the abused person moves back in for various reasons.

A bigger quicksand is non-physical abuse. It’s hard to fake a black eye (very typical injury BTW, it’s often a crime of dominance and humiliation), but how do you figure out who’s in the right? It takes some doing to figure out the verbal and nonverbal cues that someone is lying or deluded, and even more to show them what they’re doing. My brother in law and his wife are in such a situation, actually. Who do you believe? Who do you censure?

Aspiring to be a stick in the mud.