I have a question that is very important to me, and hopefully will be of use to guys who have not faced this issue yet.
I am in a quandary about an issue that I am in the middle of, even as I type this post...
My family travels to another state once a year to attend our family reunion. The majority of my extended family is unsaved, and usually there is alcohol at the function. (Different families bring whatever they want to bring to drink.) We believe that it is wrong for us to drink alcohol, and my 3-year old is at the cross roads of the "WHY?WHY?WHY?WHY?" stage and the "Imitation" stage. My wife and I have been discussing how to handle this on an ongoing basis, and settled upon the decision to just teach Abby that we believe that alcohol is wrong.
However, over the past 3 years, we have experienced an erosion of my own parent's beliefs in this area. Upon arriving at their home yesterday, I noticed a 6-pack of beer in their fridge. I feel like this is a different issue, being that it is now in a "home" setting, and even more of a problem--I believe that my parent's (Abby's grandparents) have more potential to influence her that the extended family does over a 2 1/2 day "reunion".
To help clarify a few things...both my parents strongly believed that alcohol was wrong (along with gambling, certain movies rated at a certain level, etc.). I am now finding that they no longer have a problem with social drinking (which they practice). They now no longer have a problem with gambling (as long as you set a limit before you go in, its just the same as other entertainment <- their reasoning). My mother and I do not get along very well (We are both very hard-headed), and I know by simply bringing it up, it will cause an argument.
I once heard a Fundamental Baptist Bible Conference speaker give this challenge.... "We have become to isolated from the world to impact the world. Instead of becoming more and more isolated from the world, we need to become more and more insulated with the Word."
I struggle with the fact that my daughter only sees my parents (her grandparents) twice a year as it is. I do not want her to miss getting to know them at all. I also struggle with the fact that I was around adults who drank when I was growing up, and it didn't seem to impact me because of my parent's strong belief that it wrong (or at least because they raised me in a church that taught it was), so I'm wondering if it is enough for my wife and I just to teach Abby that this is a sinful behavior, and while we love grandma and grandpa, and our aunts and uncles, we know that what they are doing is not right.
or...do I demand that my parents not drink in front of their granddaughter. Do I separate from my family reunion? How can I hope to be a positive witness if I just simply separate? Rather, am I setting an inconsistent example before my daughter if I don't?
I surely don't want this to become a theological discourse on the use of alcohol in the Bible...I would just like to know what you would do / have done in the same situations, and what you think the Lord would have me to do? Thanks.