“To many, the idea of gentleness conveys a wimpy form of Christianity. Yet gentleness, the penultimate quality of the listed fruit that the Holy Spirit produces in our lives…. is essential to the life of the Christian, the leadership of the church, and the love of Christ.” - Ligonier
Embracing Vulnerability as a Christian Leader
“Now a certain man was sick, Lazarus from Bethany, the village of Mary and her sister Martha. And it was the Mary who anointed the Lord with perfume, and wiped His feet with her hair, whose brother Lazarus was sick. So the sisters sent to Him, saying, “Lord, behold, he whom You love is sick” (John 11:1–3, LSB).
Balancing Toughness and Tenderness in Pastoral Care
“Truly, truly, I say to you, he who does not enter by the door into the fold of the sheep, but climbs up some other way, he is a thief and a robber. But he who enters by the door is a shepherd of the sheep. To him the doorkeeper opens, and the sheep hear his voice, and he calls his own sheep by name and leads them out. When he brings all his own out, he goes ahead of them, and the sheep follow him because they know his voice. A stranger they will never follow, but will flee from him, because they do not know the voice of strangers” (John 10:1–5, LSB).
On Sound Speech, Part 7
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Gentleness
Be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear (1P 3.15).
Here the KJV uses the word meekness. Outside of Christian circles, influenced by the biblical language, our culture doesn’t use the word much. When we hear it, some are inclined to think of Casper Milquetoast, or a hen-pecked husband, or the guy the bullies kick sand on at the beach.
Willingness to Confront vs. Eagerness for Controversy
“Jude had a preference: ‘Beloved, although I was very eager to write to you about our common salvation, I found it necessary to write appealing to you to contend for the faith that was once for all delivered to the saints’ (Jude 3). He wanted to agree, celebrating God’s grace in their ‘common salvation.’ But he needed to confront” - 9 Marks
Are You a Gentle Man? Must We Be Weak to Be Gentle?
“I conclude that men should be both strong and gentle—tough and tender, authoritative and compassionate, brick and velvet.” - Andy Naselli
Radical Christian Gentleness in an Era of Addictive Outrage
“In a striking, but too often neglected, passage in Religious Affections, Edwards insists an essential trait of any true Christian is ‘the lamblike, dovelike spirit and temper of Jesus Christ.’ He presents this point as nothing less than a fundamental of the faith.” - TGC
Top excuses we make to not be gentle
“It saddens me that any of us need to be convinced to be gentle. It saddens me that I’m often not gentle to those I love most. Gentleness is both a command from the Lord and a sign that we are becoming more like Christ.” - C.Post
The Sin of Provoking
“While individuals reacting poorly are responsible for their poor choices, those who provoked such responses are also responsible.” - P&D
The Secret of Gentle Confrontation
“…it is imperative that we have gentleness as we confront. Too many times, especially in our circle, we can be rough with the truth. We can come too strong and our tact in the counseling room can be terrible.” - CLeaders