On Sound Speech, Part 7

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Gentleness

Be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear (1P 3.15).

Here the KJV uses the word meekness. Outside of Christian circles, influenced by the biblical language, our culture doesn’t use the word much. When we hear it, some are inclined to think of Casper Milquetoast, or a hen-pecked husband, or the guy the bullies kick sand on at the beach.

Discussion

Willingness to Confront vs. Eagerness for Controversy

Body

“Jude had a preference: ‘Beloved, although I was very eager to write to you about our common salvation, I found it necessary to write appealing to you to contend for the faith that was once for all delivered to the saints’ (Jude 3). He wanted to agree, celebrating God’s grace in their ‘common salvation.’ But he needed to confront” - 9 Marks(link is external)

Discussion

Radical Christian Gentleness in an Era of Addictive Outrage

Body

“In a striking, but too often neglected, passage in Religious Affections, Edwards insists an essential trait of any true Christian is ‘the lamblike, dovelike spirit and temper of Jesus Christ.’ He presents this point as nothing less than a fundamental of the faith.” - TGC(link is external)

Discussion

Top excuses we make to not be gentle

Body

“It saddens me that any of us need to be convinced to be gentle. It saddens me that I’m often not gentle to those I love most. Gentleness is both a command from the Lord and a sign that we are becoming more like Christ.” - C.Post(link is external)

Discussion

The Sin of Provoking

Body

“While individuals reacting poorly are responsible for their poor choices, those who provoked such responses are also responsible.” - P&D(link is external)

Discussion

The Secret of Gentle Confrontation

Body

“…it is imperative that we have gentleness as we confront. Too many times, especially in our circle, we can be rough with the truth. We can come too strong and our tact in the counseling room can be terrible.” - CLeaders(link is external)

Discussion

On the Fruit of the Spirit, Part 9: Gentleness

Body

“We ought to think seriously, then, about the pain we inflict. Some pain is necessary, no doubt; but much of the pain we inflict with our words and actions, even when confrontation is called for, is unnecessary. Some of the pain we inflict comes from our own impatience, or frustration, or self-focus.” - Olinger(link is external)

Discussion

On the Fruit of the Spirit, Part 6: Kindness

Body

“How are such people thinking? They’re thinking outwardly; they’re focused not on what they want or need, but on what’s in the best interest of the people around them.” - Olinger(link is external)

Discussion

Critique Gently, Encourage Fiercely

Body

“We love, not in a sentimental sense, but in the gutsy, costly sense, because He first loved us. We do not have the resources in ourselves to extend such selfless love. We are resourced by another, by Jesus Himself.” - Sauls(link is external)

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