I kept choosing life after being violated by my pastor

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Andrew K.'s picture

I really appreciated this article for a number of reasons. My only quibble...

My story—and the stories of countless others who have been the victims of sexual assault perpetrated by pastors—is a story of how fairy tales have failed us. The Brothers Grimm taught us that good and evil are visibly discernible. Good is always beautiful, and evil (excepting Snow White's Evil Queen) is always ugly; heroines are flawless while villains are deformed and grotesque. But in the real world, good and evil are not so nearly apparent as we might hope.

I disagree with the above.

1) Grimm's fairy tales do have their share of ugly heroes and beautiful villains (though those aren't as famous, for some reason) and

2) the point of fairy tales really is to tell us that good is always beautiful and evil is always ugly. But they often do so on a more meaningful level than initially apparent.


Easton's picture

"Before long, I began to notice strange, questionable behaviors. Phone calls, flirtations, casual references to meeting with married women in the middle of the night. At first, I thought my perception unreliable—after all, he was the youth pastor, the seminarian. And I? A heathen ..."

Huge mistake a lot of people make (not just women) -- NOT questioning the church leaders (pastors/youth pastors/music ministers, etc.).

But, at the same time, I can also understand why many people choose not to question or examine church/spiritual leaders -- because they're taught not to.  Taught that questioning the "spiritual leadership" is rebellion -- and, as I was constantly reminded in my youth, rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft...

Personally (and thankfully), I was never physically abused by anyone, but I believe I understand how Dr. Scott (the author of the article) was "immobilized" into being subjected to abuse (rape) by a pastor.  Many churches teach to follow and not to question -- totally contrary to what should happen -- openly questioning the leadership in the church.

Religious Rule of Life #11: "Never ever enter a church 'unguarded' – look, listen and question everything – especially the pastor."

So many (if not all) of these sexual abuse scandals could be avoided if people would question the leadership and hold them accountable.

Teri Ploski's picture

The one and only pastor that I ever heard say not to question "the Lord's anointed" is a fundamentalist pastor who is sitting in prison in California for sexual abuse.  All of my other pastors have encouraged questioning them.