Book Review—Dear Timothy: Letters on Pastoral Ministry

Dear Timothy: Letters on Pastoral Ministry, ed. Thomas K. Ascol (Cape Coral, Florida: Founders Press, 2004), 384 pp.

timothy.jpgIf anything should make you appreciate a faithful pastor, it’s spending time with one. Dear Timothy: Letters on Pastoral Ministry may not place you directly at the side of a pastor, but it will give you the distilled thoughts of 19 seasoned men of God on various aspects of the pastoral ministry.

“Timothy,” like Ira Pointer in Richard Belcher’s series of books that began with Journey in Grace, is a fictional pastor. Unlike Ira Pointer, whose story is filled with other fictional characters, Timothy receives 20 different letters from real-life pastors who encourage and warn him about the privileges and pitfalls of the ministry. Timothy and his wife, Mary, are parents of a two-year-old and are expecting their second child. Timothy is 26 years old, a seminary graduate who has just finished his first six months of pastoral ministry. The book is designed to profit those presently in pastoral ministry and those considering it.

Dear Timothy presents aspects of the ministry that all pastors should heed. The book is edited by one of the contributors, Tom Ascol, and features chapters by a variety of pastors, mostly from Reformed and Baptist backgrounds. The theological perspectives certainly shape some of what is said, but those who are squeamish with the doctrines of grace as understood by Calvinists will still find much profitable material here, especially Mark Dever’s chapter, “Do the Work of an Evangelist.” Other contributors include Conrad Mbewe, Tedd Tripp, Ted Christman, Andy Davis, Martin Holdt, C.J. Mahaney, Bill Ascol, Fred Malone, Raymond Perron, Ligon Duncan, Joel Beeke, Roger Ellsworth, Terry Johnson, Steve Martin, Phil Newton, Ray Ortland, Jr., and Geoff Thomas. These men represent over 480 years of experience in the pastorate.

The book includes chapters on priorities, self-examination, loving your family and flock, Scripture memory, prayer, humility, courage, the necessity of personal work, the importance of doctrine and study, reading the Puritans, preaching, worshiping, mentoring, missions, revival, and finding a place to settle. The last chapter is particularly relevant in an age when short pastorates seem to be all too common. Dear Timothy helps one to think through attitudes and practices. It emphasizes the importance of the heart.

Tom Ascol sets a good tone for the book in chapter 1, reminding pastors that they must make decisions based on the priority of the various things they are called to be. Beginning with the most foundational relationship, he lists that a pastor is supposed to be a Christian, a husband, a father, a pastor, and then a helper of others. Commitment to this order of priorities helps one to know what opportunities are best and when to say no. These priorities keep us accountable to God and others and are built upon one another like a pyramid, with one’s relationship with God being essential to fulfilling all the other priorities.

Ascol appropriately quotes Robert Murray M’Cheyne: “It is not great talents God blesses so much as great likeness to Jesus. A holy minister is an awful weapon in the hand of God” (p. 26). Tedd Tripp further underscores what this means for a pastor to properly love his family: “Man-pleasing is impossible, Timothy. It is destructive to yourself and to your family. You and Mary must commit yourself to graciously refusing every effort made by people you serve to set the agenda for your family” (p. 64).

One of the most helpful chapters for me was Andy Davis’ on memorizing Scripture. He gives five reasons to memorize not simply individual verses here and there but entire books of Scripture:

  1. It honors the testimony that Scripture gives about itself … God does not waste His breath, so there are no superfluous words in Scripture.
  2. [It] enables you to more readily grasp the central thought.
  3. You will be less likely to take verses out of context as a result of memorizing the whole book.
  4. Your joy will keep increasing, as will your awe at the miraculous infinity of truth in the Scripture, as you continue to discover new truths day after day, month after month.
  5. Finally, memorization of extended portions of Scripture readily lends itself to the best style of preaching for you— expository.

(pp. 92-95)

This chapter influenced me to begin memorizing 1 Timothy with two other men in my local church. We have all testified to the great blessing this has been to us.

The spiritual discipline of prayer is not neglected in Dear Timothy. Martin Holdt writes that “prayer is our highest work. It is hard work. It is a fight against the adversary. It is a battle against the flesh. It is essential work. The minister who does not pray for his flock is no minister at all. He is proud because he does his work as if he can succeed without God’s power. He shows no pity because he does not realize that his people’s greatest need is the Lord’s divine favors upon them. Be assured of this, if he does not pray, he will pay a high price” (p. 105, emphasis mine).

C.J. Mahaney writes about humility. This chapter reminds the pastor that humility will affect how a pastor handles himself as a sinner, describing the humble pastor as a man characterized by “confession and the pursuit of correction” (p. 125). He further writes: “Timothy, we are not like cordless drills that can go all day on a single charge … All day, every day, I need to keep directing my thoughts to God, keep standing close to the cross, keep offering thanks for innumerable evidences of grace and keep casting my cares on the One who cares for me with such perfect love and faithfulness” (p. 131).

Mark Dever reminds the pastor of the need to be intentional for obtaining witnessing opportunities, since he is surrounded by Christians much of the time. He urges the importance of a burden for the lost when he writes that “the God we serve is the God who left the ninety and nine to go seeking for the lost one. Pore over Luke 15 in prayer and ask God to give you a heart for the lost, like that woman had for her coin, like that shepherd had for his sheep, like that father had for his son. Pray that lost people become precious to you. If they do, it will affect the way you prepare and preach. It will affect the way you plan your own schedule and the way you lead your church” (p. 165).

Raymond Perron instructs Timothy on the importance of sound doctrine, including the implications for his own life and the lives of others. He warns on page 186, “How much we need to remain in sound doctrine, avoiding the snare of always looking for new things!” He writes of guarding the flock from false teachers: “Let me remind you, Timothy, that the most efficient way of keeping the flock safe against the cunning and craftiness of wolves and against the various winds of deadly doctrines is to build a fortress of sound doctrine” (p. 189). Furthermore, Perron gives these sobering words: “It has been said that the value of a thing is measured by the price paid for it. The cost of the souls that our Lord committed to your care was nothing less than the blood of the Eternal Son of God Himself” (p. 189).

The book has an excellent, well-rounded bibliography that includes classics as well as modern works on theology and the practice of ministry. Most chapters include recommendations for further reading (or listening), citing sermons, websites, magazines, journals, and books to help the pastor.

Dear Timothy is an excellent and helpful book, but it could stand a few improvements. There were a few minor typographical errors that slipped through the final edit. An index might have added to the value of the book, although the format with its highly focused chapters makes it easy to find most of the pertinent material for which one might search. Chapters devoted solely to issues such as polity, church discipline, combating false teaching, guidelines for cooperation with other ministries and churches, legal issues, and the pastor’s personal finances might also have been helpful. However, the book is not designed to cover every topic related to pastoral ministry in great detail and does point people to many other resources. Perhaps a second volume or an expanded edition could be an occasion for more letters that would cover some of these other topics in more depth.

This book should instill in a man the weight and seriousness of these ministry issues. It should also encourage him to build relationships and seek counsel from other faithful pastors, since reading books and taking courses are not sufficient preparation for being a pastor. The book should also encourage those with ministry experience to share that experience and mentor other men, in obedience to 2 Timothy 2:2.

Perhaps a book like this will spark fresh letters from other pastors. The letters may not be published, but they may have a ripple effect upon numerous other lives if one would manage his time and communicate practical, faithful wisdom about being a pastor. Dear Timothy would be a great book for your pastor or a man interested in the ministry. It is also a good read if you want to understand what a pastor’s life is like.

Do you appreciate the pastoral ministry? Spending time reading the letters written in Dear Timothy will help give you a newsmith_doug.jpg appreciation for the tremendous responsibility and privilege of being a pastor and should cause you to thank God for raising up faithful shepherds.


Doug Smith is a member of Cornerstone Chapel Reformed Baptist Church in Bristol, Tennessee, and a student and preacher with the Cumberland Area Pulpit Supply, an extension of Bancroft Gospel Ministries in Kingsport, Tennessee. You may contact him at His blog is located at Glory Gazer

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