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I would vote "NO" - not because we just don't, but because I don't think we are any worse than they are.
It's likely that one would be labeled judgmental and overly critical when one's initial reaction to anything new or different is usually negative, critical, and/or suspicious.
I chose "probably," because we Christians are expected to "judge righteous judgments" and be discerning. Exercise of that in *any* way in our current culture, where pretty much anything goes, is considered to be judgment of the bad kind. And where people are supposed to judge, there will be poor application of that judgment. Compared to those today who say that there should be no judgment (even though they don't understand the logical impossibility of that stance) and do their best to accept everything, we certainly judge more, at least admittedly, than they do.
Now, does that mean we *actually* are guilty of more bad judgment than the population at large. I doubt it. Again, though, any critical judgment of anything, even if it's good, will be seen as being judgmental, and most non-Christians I meet today seem to be trying hard not to "judge," even if that's impossible.
"...I have seen more of this negative, critical behavior...in the evangelical/fundamentalist world than in the world at large."
So, that would be a "yes" for you, then, Mr. Vasicek?
In my experience, having worked in both full-time Christian ministries and with companies/firms that are not, Christian ministries are far and away more critical, judgmental and negative than anything I've experienced in the secular world. I have seen employees/families treated with utter disregard, all under the guise of Christianity - something I have not personally experienced in the larger secular world.
Given a choice between working for/with a conservative/fundamentalist Christian or a pagan, based on my experience, I would choose the pagan every time.
That's a "yes" from me.
Christian businesses (could the the large church with a staff of 10+) generally do not have good HR policies.
Where I work, employees are treated with dignity and respect. Even being laid off (which I have thankfully avoided) is handled respectfully.
Anecdotally I know of dozens of employees who have been unceremoniously dumped by Christian organizations. I personally know a Pastor who developed a throat condition that made preaching difficult. He was fired.
Politics in Christian organizations can be Machiavellian. At least in a secular company one normally knows where he stands!
That's an interesting situation. What do you think the church should have done given the situation?
Perhaps you are too young to know of this but years ago Lee Roberson (Highland Park Baptist, Chattanooga) had a throat condition that prevented his preaching for (as I recall) a year or more. The church used other staff and visiting preachers while his throat healed. (This was back in the 1972-73 time frame)
I can't find much about this online but did find one reference here
There's a couple of things in the Roberson anecdote that would impact an analysis of the original story. Size of the church and availability of both substitute speakers as well as alternative work for the afflicted to do while unable to preach and also duration of the ailment are significant considerations. None of this information was provided in your initial anecdote, which is why I asked the question.
Without naming the church
He had a throat condition that made him sound like he had a little hiccup
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Several years ago I had a raspy voice. I'm on the telephone all day (internal calls). One team member accused me of using my angry voice. She was several job grades above me. After I got off the phone I went to my manager's office and told him that she would be calling him. While I was in his office, indeed she did call him to complain about my angry voice.
Shortly afterwards I visited a throat doctor. I had inflamed vocal chords. It took some time to recover.
"We expect lost people to be judgmental and negative... We expect Christians to be understanding and kind, and we are surprised when they are not."
When I was young and naive, yes, this is exactly what I expected (the above quote). But your poll, Mr. Vasicek, was based on our experience - and my experience has taught me quite the opposite. I'm no longer surprised when conservative Christians are not "understanding and kind", now I expect it.
Kind of sad, really. Shouldn't be this way.
I would say typically fundamentalists /evangelicals are more critical than others. If I only had a dollar....for every Christian I have heard condemn the person and not the sin. But I have also noticed that atheists have become not only critical but hostile towards people of faith so it happens on both ends of the spectrum and less in the middle I think.
In my experience, there are plenty of critical attitudes both inside and outside fundamentalism. While believers often fail to act with grace and love, unbelievers are routinely critical and judgmental, even while they proclaim their pluralistic values and non-judgmental attitude.
Sadly, though I know many godly, loving saints who are gracious in judgment (yes, even in fundamental churches), they are often ignored by the church's critics who many times are hyper-judgmental of those within fundamentalism who are hyper-judgmental themselves.
A "true Christian" will likely be conscious of and obedient to the commands and spirit of the Word of God and thus certainly not more judgmental than the non Christian ("in the bad sense").