Not too long ago there was a psychological theory called “ventilation.” I’m not sure whether or not it has died out everywhere yet. But theory or no theory, it’s still seems to be a popular idea—if you’ve got something churning inside, you’d better get it out, for you own good.
“What’s wrong with that?”
Well, several things. I think I’ll just mention two.
First, the self-centeredness of it is apparent. Who cares what happens to the other guy when I take out my ire on him—I’m the one who counts!
“Well, I can see that. What’s the second thing?”
Let me read you what God says about the issue in Proverbs 29:11:
A stubborn fool fully ventilates his anger,
but the wise, holding it back, quiets it.
“Wow! Didn’t know God had spoken about the matter!”
Quite explicitly. Who wants to make a fool of himself? And it doesn’t hurt you to “hold it back” as the Freudians thought, either. In fact the more you work yourself up...